The main post is below, but I have to lead with today's Reperconcussions story: Notre Dame's quarterback stayed in for seven plays to finish a scoring drive although he had been hit so hard HE LOST VISION IN HIS RIGHT EYE, although it came back later. Seems like a failure in judgement on his part rather than coaching pressure, but is another example of the everyday dangers in football. On the plus side, he says it feels a lot less serious than the concussion he got in high school. No word on if his eye agrees. http://sports.espn.go.com/ncf/news/story?id=5576505
And now the main event:
I gave a friend some not-100%-positive feedback yesterday on a group he leads (not work-related, but otherwise I'm not giving details). Even worse, I didn't have a solution to offer, just complaints, which I don't like. But I thought it would be good to get my thoughts out there, and the conversation went very well.
Today he blogged a rant savaging complainers. He didn't mean to include yesterday's discussion, but I'm realizing how nervous I am to bring up other issues, in case they're in the next category that will result in a rant. I don't even know how I want to bring up this one, and I speak up a lot - is there a way to tell how this will impact quieter people? Especially the people he's describing?
I hope I'm uniquely overreacting.
I think the whole, "don't come to me with a problem unless you have a solution," is bullshit.
ReplyDeleteIdentify a problem and discuss it with the person/people to resolve--show some creative thinking, to be sure, but if you hold back a criticism b/c you don't have an immediate solution, you'll be sorry later.